Happy Christmas Everyone,
Your family thinks that they know you and how you generally behave. Call it expectation. A difference in your conduct, as a result of stress or someone being mean, changes your behaviour. Everyone else has to work around this new happening and that is when there is an upset. They cannot cope.
For families who live together from baby to grand-parent, stresses sometimes culminate at Christmas. Many British families often come together at Christmas and other events.
Be true to yourself but stand up for yourself if the other person is in the wrong. Smile.
‘If you can hold you head up high,
Whilst all around are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
You will be a man, my son’ (or daughter. Rudyard Kipling did not live in enlightened times.)
Here is a fervent hope that your Christmas is happy.